WHY THE OVER ACHIEVER IN YOU IS HOLDING YOU BACK
Learn to Seek Approval From Yourself Instead
If you’re someone who…
… Is constantly biting off more than they can chew
… Always says “yes” to everything
… Thinks working overtime is the norm
You MIGHT be an overachiever!
In fact, MOST of my clients have been overachievers because most women I know have big dreams and like to get stuff done! They are driven, goal-oriented, hard-working, and, more often than not, highly successful.
Which is fantastic… except when they feel like they’re constantly overdoing it, whether in the workplace, at home, as a parent, or in their community.
Can you relate?
If you’re thinking, “that’s me!” don’t worry; it’s completely understandable because society often rewards overachievers with success and accolades.
But here’s the problem…
Constantly seeking more attention, approval, and acknowledgment will never lead to happiness and fulfillment.
That quick hit of recognition or acknowledgment is fleeting and will always leave you hungry for the next dopamine hit of approval.
The good news is the path to living the life you desire doesn’t require you to overachieve, but it does require you to look within yourself — that’s where you’ll find your truths, desires, and innate gifts that lead to your purpose on this earth.
Did you know you have unique, natural gifts?
As an overachiever, you’ve probably overlooked these gifts believing they weren’t special or had no meaning in your life…
…But the truth is, these gifts were inside of you the moment you were born; they come as naturally as breathing and feel effortless to share with the world.
You don’t need to work tirelessly to achieve these gifts or spend thousands of dollars on a prestigious education.
You don’t need to spend 10,000 hours or enroll in countless courses or programs to master these gifts.
These gifts come naturally to you from deep within your very being, not from the outside world.
As an overachiever, you’re used to looking to your parents, teachers, boss, programs, awards, and other institutions for acceptance and approval.
But as Epictetus said in an article in the Daily Stoic, “If you are ever tempted to look for outside approval, realize that you have compromised your integrity. If you need a witness, be your own.”
Staying true to your truths, desires, and gifts is how you maintain integrity.
Going within to seek your own approval and access your unique gifts might be a foreign concept to you as an overachiever (after all, you’ve worked very hard for everything you’ve got), but trust me when I say… it’s worth it.
Because embracing, refining, and experimenting with your natural gifts is HOW you will reach fulfillment in life with much less effort.
So think about what you do effortlessly, what you’re drawn to naturally, or what others often seek from you.
What natural gifts have you brushed off as ordinary or as abilities that everyone has?
If you look deep into your heart and soul, you’ll know what those gifts are because, deep down, you’ve always known.
Imagine what it might feel like to stop overachieving and use your gifts to guide your path!
How freeing would that feel?
“When you do not seek or need approval, you are at your most powerful.” – Caroline Myss from an article on Tiny Buddha.
So stop trying to overachieve, seeking outside approval in every area of your life, and start tuning inward towards your truth, desires, and gifts that you can give to the world.
If you need extra help dropping overachieving for good, book a call with me and see if we would be a good fit! I’ve helped many clients overcome overachieving and connect with their inner selves, and I’d love to see if I can assist you in doing the same.